September 3, 2010 | Volume 43 Issue 13

Life, Love and Lust

Intimate Inquiries

Dear LL&L regulars,
In honor of the end of “Lost” and the countless lessons on life and love it brought, your wonderful LL&L editors Khassaundra and Emmercelle have stepped down to let two seasoned “Lost” disciples spread the show’s teachings to the romantically beguiled. We appreciate your patience while we discern the great truths of “Lost” [...]

Intimate Inqueries

Dear K&E,
Recently my girlfriend has asked to spend less time together. She wants to hang out and talk on the phone less. I know she’s busy — especially since she’s graduating in June — but this seems kind of strange. It totally took me by surprise.

I’m not really sure what to think about this. [...]

Intimate Inquiries

Dear K&E,

I am recently single and most of my friends are too. We have tried dating different guys and so a lot of different boys have been cycling through our circle. However, recently all of the guys who have dated my friends have been trying to hit me up after things go [...]

Intimate Inquiries

Dear K&E,
I’m really interested in this guy. We’ve been hanging out and getting pretty close, but then I found out he’s dating someone. I was getting the vibe that he was interested in me too, and even now he still asks me to hang out a lot. Am I reading too much into things, or [...]

Intimate Inquiry

Hi K&E,
I met my boyfriend in high school and we’ve been together for almost four years. I fell in love with him because of his fun personality and sense of humor. I enjoy his presence because I am the type of person who doesn’t take stress very well and needs to be more relaxed, so [...]

A changing of the LL&L guard!

It’s because of you, your submissions and your feedback, that Life Love and Lust took “Best Blog” in the California College Media Association Awards. Now that I’m nearly finished here, it’s almost impossible for me to give it up. I can’t tell you how grateful I am to you for your willingness to share your stories and questions with me and the rest of the UC Irvine community. The column truly would not have been the same without you.

Intimate Inquiry

Dear Sandy,
My boyfriend has been asking me to have anal sex for a while now, and I decided that I would give him anal sex for his birthday in a couple of weeks. I’m getting nervous, and I don’t know what to expect. What can I do to make it more comfortable and less [...]

Intimate Inquiries

Sandy,
I’ve been dating a guy for eight months, but he would never make a move. The most we ever did was hug when we saw each other and hug when we left. Last Thursday though, he came to visit me here at UCI, and we actually hooked up. It was really nice, pretty romantic.
I didn’t [...]

Intimate Inquiries

Dear Sandy,
My boyfriend and I have been trying to make shower-sex work, but we haven’t really had the best time of it (slipping around, can’t find a good position, etc.) What do you recommend trying in the shower?
-Sudsy in the Shower
Dear Sudsy,
Running water, soap and ceramic surfaces aren’t exactly the best recipe for a sex [...]

Intimate Inquiries

Good evening, Sandy!
Nice to meet you!
Thank you for your sincere service for college students regarding dating and relationship!
My name is Pilgrim. As it is shown in my name, I am a Christian, who pursues the meaning of life in God.
As a consequence, many parts of my life are governed by biblical principles. During my lifetime, [...]

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